Refining Words, Refining People

February 3, 2025

In the writing and speaking world, the process of changing, correcting, or condensing grammar and ideas is called editing. In the spiritual world, the process of changing, correcting, or condensing habits and qualities is called repentance. Both editing and repentance involve time, reflection, and action to get good results. The key difference is that editing is about refining words and repentance is about refining people. It might be tempting to see the two as entirely different things, yet they are not. This is because refined words can refine people. How we edit our words when speaking or writing could make the difference between a positive or negative perception. This is why Elder Ronald A. Rasband of the quorum of the twelve apostles has taught:

"Words matter! They are the bedrock of how we connect; they represent our beliefs, morals, and perspectives. . .Words set a tone. They voice our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, for good or bad."

While we are not responsible for how others interpret us, we can make it easier and more likely to be interpreted positively. Editing our words is vital to this process, as is repenting and turning to Christ when we fall short. Sharon Eubank, former first counselor in the Relief Society General Presidency has reminded us:

"Our work as disciples of Christ is to make it easier for people to come unto Him."

Influence thrives on understanding. That's why authors often identify their audience before they even begin writing. When they know their audience's age, gender, culture, interests, anxieties, and more they can craft their words to resonate and influence that audience. Editors also know the audience so they can maintain the author's intended tone while refining words and ideas. Seeking to understand others in this way isn't just the basis for good writing, it's the basis for healthy communication in all its forms. Refining words can refine people and not just those to whom we communicate. In the process of seeking understanding, we become more humble. Let us choose our words carefully.